emergence of attachment
Some mothers say that a sense of attachment to the child they first appeared already in his first stirring in the womb.According to others, the love of the baby suddenly engulfed them after birth.In third feeling it develops gradually.Contrary to popular belief to form an emotional attachment mother to child may be required for some time - human relationships are not as "simple mechanics" to occur or terminate as at the flick of a switch after a sp
Many parents of newborns, obeying instinct, stroke baby on cheeks and back, stare into his eyes.In turn, the child immediately after birth remarkably responsive to the environment.He had just experienced the birth of his own and was very tired, but his eyes were open, and carefully view the world around them.This activity contributes to the establishment of an immediate emotional connection with her mother in those moments when a child answers a look at her eyes.Young children are able to mimic the facial expressions of adults, sticking out his tongue, opening the mouth or squeezing the mouth.According to some studies, the baby has two or three days of age is able to imitate a happy, sad or surprised facial expression.It is believed that early imitation is one of the first manifestations of the child's desire to communicate with his mother.
maternal and paternal feelings
Women often show emotional reaction at the sight of a baby - his or someone else's.Their pupils are thus considerably extended.The reactions of men are more diverse: usually pronounced positive attitude to a small child show those men who already have their own children.The research results led to the conclusion that every woman is by nature focused on maternal behavior, the man is feeling his role as a father and protector awakens only with the appearance of their own offspring.The positive side of this pattern is that men do not show much interest in other people's children, they are often devoted fathers.
so-called baby talk during the natural relationship between mother and child - mother affectionate speech, addressed to the baby - not only expresses her love for him, but also plays an important role in his speech development.High cooing mother's voice with an emphasis on vowel sounds perceived by the ear of the child is easily tuned to higher frequencies.
for newborns is also important to the formation of relationships with brothers and sisters, in addition to the natural relationship between mother and child.The rivalry - it is a natural reaction that occurs in situations where two persons claim the same "reward" - the attention of parents.A typical reaction is to regress in the development and expression of resentment from the older child.For the formation of attachment to the younger should involve an older child to take part in caring for them, and encourage the expression of affection to their parents, and brother or sister.Oldest child can read aloud to your child, play with it.
In the first three months of life, the child gives little value to someone who is caring for him.At the age of 4-6 months, he begins to recognize his main "guardian" and quickly settles down in his presence.About 7 months the baby is formed by a strong affection for this man, and he expresses an outcry when it takes on the other hand.Over the following months this affection grows into a strong emotional bond, has a strong influence on the development of the child.
When a child begins to take the first steps, parents need to find a middle ground between excess and lack of concern for his safety during the natural relationship between mother and child.Overprotective suppresses the autonomy of the child, and the necessary support contributes to its harmonious development.
development of self
child gets older, and 5-6 years of his self-esteem is formed, which is largely dependent on their parents.The most important factor in building self-esteem is the quality of the kid relationship between him and his parents.All parents say and do, should cause a child's confidence in the immutability of their love for him.When a child misbehaves, should criticize his actions, not his own.Children confident unconditional parental love, are usually able to perceive and respond to the criticism of failure undismayed.
parents transfer their children to a system of values rather than discussing them with the child as implementing them in everyday situations of family life.Children quickly learn exactly which behaviors cause parents approval or discontent.For example, if the parents do not attach particular importance to the confusion in the child's bedroom, but strictly require homework, it indicates a high priority to education in their system of values.