Often when we try to warn children about the dangers, the use made-up stories and myths that do not always have a positive effect on the psyche.
It turns out that instead of having to save a child from outside influence, we are doing harm.
So, how to talk to him, without causing adverse effects and to be sure that this will be good?This is what we will talk today.
Family relationships between parent and child, as you know, excited scientists and psychologists data - for a long time, but seriously to dedicate time to this problem was only now.Consider a situation in which it is possible to make fatal mistakes, and take the necessary lessons.
1. The problem of hygiene.
Kids love to swim in the river in summer, some- home in the bathroom or shower.However, washing your hands does not like anybody.But why?Because, firstly, laziness, secondly, this process takes time, and at any age, it is valuable.For example, the child ran home meal, and then, as luck would have it, the neighbor began to call ou
In order to make children aware about hygiene, parents often repeated: "If you eat without washing their hands, zavedutsya worms as Misha from next door."Parents notice that the child began to take care of yourself and never forget to wash your hands before dinner, however, he became restless and constantly complains of nightmares that his stomach had someone there.This is the first signal that the child's mind was traumatized.And now to return it back and try to explain to your child what you want to say in fact, it will take time.
valuable advice: In order to get your child understand you correctly, you should start a conversation in his spare time, rather than when, for example, your son or daughter to take food or doing homework.Choose a time when your child is playing or watching TV, and then tell us that our body - a tower, and the immune system - is the soldiers, the defenders.They protect us from the attacks of microbes.And when a child asks a question about who are these "bacteria", say that it is "the enemies that live in the mud, sand and dust."The most important thing - to explain clearly and simply.
2. Likes, dislikes?
parents in each family using phrases such as "If you do not vytresh table, I'm with you I will not be friends!" What a nightmare!This vredina no one will ever love! ".At these moments, the child experiences a shock, because to use the "no" means that even native parents do not like their own child.It turns out that the child is closed, believing themselves abandoned and no unnecessary.
valuable advice: each of us wants to hear these valuable words - "I will always love you, whatever you did not!".For a child it means much more.While it is small, it absorbs all the above, seen, felt like a sponge.Therefore, if the parents will blame him and intimidated by the fact that their love will disappear if a child eats a spoonful of porridge is not, do not pour the flower, or can not stand trash, it is not surprising that in the future there will be problems with the psyche.Maintain good relations kindness and love.
3. Comparison with fantastic characters
on family relationships also affects the education of fairy tales.If the authorities are adult stars and models from glossy magazine covers and TV, so that the child would be the ideal hero of a film or a fairy tale
Arriving home, you notice that your daughter has forgotten diary.When she comes back, you probably will hear from your lips: "Here you are scattered, like the hero from street pool!".Drawing attention to the children all the flaws, you thereby provoke in them the appearance of uncertainty, weakness and resentment.Children begin to think about what they really are what they are called the closest people - parents.The good relations of family members here in this case, and should not be talking.
valuable tip: make comments, of course, necessary.And if you notice that the child quickly managed to cope, be sure to praise him.Even in fairy tales good triumphs over evil, the heroes also are working on the bugs.
4. «Parental blackmail".
Remember, if you say your parents that if you do not do the lessons, you will not go for a walk, or not having eaten porridge, do not get chocolate?These phrases are used by all couples in the upbringing of children, even when the children grow up, we do not stop to put ultimatums.However, it should be remembered that in the future, your child can quickly and easily respond to your "Do not come home on time - I will not give to watch TV!" Frazochki this: "Do not buy a computer - will not come at all!".
valuable advice: try not to use such phrases to avoid giving a bad example to your child.Remember that his system is still emerging world and you - its main operating facilities.Parents should examine their children's behavior, know ahead of strengths and weaknesses, to skillfully approach the process of education.Then you will protect the child from unnecessary and ideas, and themselves from negative attitudes and mistrust of their own children.
Thus, try to take into account all the advantages and disadvantages of their methods of education.
your children - your pride!