«Because ten girls on statistics, nine guys ...".You do not not mean anything by accident this song?And true, this is the situation we have in the world - the lack of male and female as a result of endless war.Our wise mothers and grandmothers taught us that you need to be a strong, confident, have obeyed man, learn to cook, deal with the economy.But in most cases, modern girls listen telecasts, or rather series, where one of the main characters for the sake of a man using a pregnancy.Anyone who wants something, goes resolutely to the goal - to achieve it.
And now the question arose, how does a small child in family relationships?Whether to keep it to shatter the bridge of love or the last link will cut the rope?That's to understand.
Before us is a typical family, which add up a bad relationship of husband and wife for several years.All their attempts to somehow get closer to stability fails and remote from each other.How in such a situation can help a baby?Many women believe that as long as the hus
give a standard example: the girl threw a favorite with all my heart guy.How did she do that, he returned?And then there is a friend, it would seem wise and right, unable to recommend anything wrong.And as it turns out after her words - is capable of.A friend says something like: "His heart will soften after you bring him the baby."In a state of confusion woman be able to decide on this "feat", but then would regret all his life.
important to realize that moment, that if a man is not ready to be a father, that the sudden appearance of the child, the family does not become stronger and happier, if not there will be more trust and love between husband and wife.Man finds it even betrayal.There is then a question of why man is not ready: What is the reason for his reluctance to have children?
- marriage took place recently, and he wanted to live for himself and his beloved.
- man would like to explore all aspects of married life and to know the nature of the betrothed
- man is not ready yet to the material costs of a child
- man feels excessive responsibility and is not ready psychologically
- man does not dare to respond to the proposal of the spouses consent izfor fear that she knows about his disease, because of which the children in the family can not be.
Most of these problems are, of course, every man has his own reasons not to want the birth of first child, but if for the most part of the answer, they are listed above.
There is another very important issue that affects the poor relations in the family, where there is a small child - namely, communication between spouses.Usually, after the child comes into the world, a woman withdraws into himself and tries to do everything for the sake of the child, his health and happiness.She completely forgets about the role of his wife, the role of women.How can it be manifested in a relationship?
woman ceases to prepare those exotic dishes that used to indulge their favorite
- Young mother after birth, of course, will have a couple of extra kilograms, but it will not be a completely confused, and so it will continue to eat,as before.
- After birth, a woman looks tired, and she did not have enough time to care for themselves.By the way, for this reason, many young couples differ: men like well-groomed women who do not lose their beauty and confidence even after the birth of the baby.A girl, who is only in the morning will rub your eyes, put on the head scarf, and take advantage of deodorant, if not forget - are unlikely to be interested in the stronger sex.
- And the problem is, in turn, to the next - the refusal to have sex with someone you love.Woman is keen only concern small.
all together creates a situation in which a split foundation of relations is inevitable.
child, even if it is born, will not bring any benefits are neither mother nor father.Whatever it was sad to realize, but it's true.Confirmation of this zakonspektirovat in numerous tests conducted among the common people.As noted, couples in which small children are not born by mutual consent, quickly disintegrated, and communication was not possible, even after a long time.The child remained with either mother or grandmother.And more often than not in a child is not guilty, only that which was born for joy and maternal love, gave to the orphanage.
sincerity and understanding destroy bad relations in the family where a small child.
Therefore, in order to not become a bad attitude to you life barrier, decide all questions together with your loved ones.The birth of a small "lump" - this is happiness, but this happiness that was equally important, try to be ready together.