"Dad, Mom, I - together happy family!" The word "family" for the child means a lot and combines necessarily two main components - the father and mother. In fact, a full-fledged family can call it that, in which the roleeducation of children belongs to both spouses. Today, many believe that the male half beware of their duties related to the development of the child, and thus the entire process of education falls on women. Is this true? What is the role of the father in a child's life?
questions are not simple,but we still try to answer them, citing several examples.
In order to determine the place of men in the family, you can to start their own conduct such an experiment: Invite a few children who have a complete family. Further, conducted a survey on "What does my dad? His role at home. "Certainly most of the answers will be as:
- My dad evenings watching television
- My dad is constantly at work or busy with affairs in other cities
- My dad is rarely seen at home
- My dad often punishes
- My dad is buying things for the house.
According to statistics, almost no child will tell you that education and development deals with his dad, while my mother is busy working or spending time watching the next movie serials.
But caring fathers there and they recognize their leading role in the upbringing of the younger generation, have a positive impact on the formation, the formation of multiple personality.These responsible men believe that taking care of a child's life for them, as a debt of honor and dignity.For some, raise their own child is synonymous duty to the Fatherland.So fathers need to take the central column in the "Red Book".
But why is it that most of the children answer the question about the role of the father in a child's life is not as we would like?Is there the main reason?Yes there is.And the reason for this lay in the foundation of modern society a long time ago.
recall primitive society, in which everyone was busy with a certain kind of activity.Men-gatherers and hunters who have to care about food offspring warm shelter and protection of the territory.Woman - "domesticated creature" that is its duty to keep the fire to cook food, to get rid of rubbish and educate children.Here, pay attention to the last point - to raise children.It turns out that regardless of whether someone is a child care and primary role in educating and shaping the future of the defense of the tribe belongs to the woman.Each says it's not fair.Position man looks selfish.It is even possible to make a conclusion - women's work neposilen unaided.Just imagine, it should take care of the house, the surrounding things, do not forget about yourself, it's not well-groomed woman does not attract attention, "male", and still have time to give affection to the child.Usually, these days the weak half of humanity answers: "I have not a thousand hands!".
In this regard, it is clear that the men initially believed his main job and his duty to ensure the safety of the family.Therefore, to educate their son or daughter is just not possible.
And until now, a lot of guys do not even know how to hold the baby in her arms and weeping at first complained of arose migraine, weakness, and the need to leave for work.
Most families split at birth because of the unwillingness of men.And all the talk about waiting, like "Honey, do not rush, still have time to" end with the fact that a woman turns 30 years old, and childbirth involve complications.
What else there is an alternative child-rearing for men?
- While the child is small, it has to take care of a woman, but as an older, then a small part of the responsibility to be ready to take the father.But when older.As a result, the child graduates from university and then only the father remembers its debt and sometimes provides "grown-up child" material means.
- When the boy was born, the concern is evident at once, there is no problem.If the girl, the lovely ladies will have to forget about their dream and get ready to take full responsibility.
Watching dads, children shift their activities themselves.At this point, it appears the ideal father, the idol.So, do all in the image of a child is considered to be only positive.If a man works are often favors the child's mother does not forget about his grandmother, buys goods for the house and always shares some values, then the child will take an example that a positive impact on his future life.
Very often children are disillusioned with their fathers.For example, coming from the garden, kid tells his mother that today other children talked about their dads: they walk together, go to the zoo and cinema as an ice cream shop and hang out in the evenings in front of TV, watching comedies and action films.Why is not that our dad?Maybe he does not love me?After this issue, we can assume that the problem has overstepped the brink and it is time to talk to the father of a family.How to make a man woke up the debt of his father?
- Let walks will be held under its full responsibility
- Most Daytrips
- talks about how as a child distinguished for their excellent performance.
- Let the child himself is not afraid to talk to Dad about how much he loves and appreciates care.You can even hint dear Pope that it is present in the life of a weasel, but I would like it to multiply.
role of the father - is limitless, as well as the role of the mother.Therefore, I appreciate what you have!