Probably every modern girl before marrying, ask questions about how to conduct themselves is-in-law, so that she was satisfied with her daughter and did not become a pretext for a quarrel with her beloved.At first it seems that the relationship is quite stable, no complaints.But there comes a time when the wedding is approaching and here begins the "war".With what are related causes of disputes between daughter and mother?How to get on the "minefield" and stay alive?Is it possible to predict in advance what will be the nature of the woman-in-law?
«But who taught you so wash the dishes?" "Shirts need not add," "Pie bit overexposed ..." - tired of these phrases?Not surprising.Each woman has their own private space, which is not available prying eyes.Only proven people with affection, kindness and humility be able to get into this space and win the trust.Before drawing conclusions, tedious closely to deal with a situation in which there are differences between women.Consider the basic.
- There is an anecdote:
A guy built himself all round the house.He meets with his friend and he asks:
- Zdarova, and why are you a house is made round?
peasant and answers:
- Why, mother-in-law says, "I hope your new house there is a little corner for me!"
similar situation happens in relations between sister-in-law.Most men even like to joke, referring to the two luxury ladies' daughter-in-law's nuclear mixture. "Ridiculously something funny, but when it comes to the scandal goes to everyone, including her husband.Therefore, the first problem, which relates to the controversy - is the problem of housing.The guy has long been under the scrutiny of his mother, and now forced to live with the girl completely familiar.Every mother will be worried about your child, and therefore often ask to visit, sometimes to stay for a week or two.
- Domestic quarrel.Some are taught that fill the bed stands, covering pillowcase pillow, and others - so that the pillow was on top, and even at an angle.Mental disorders will be accompanied during the time until the common "nuclear mixture."We do not like teaching, much less having no basis.Well, what seems to be a difference as to fill the bed?The main thing is clean and tidy.But there is no need to be so, as he wants, or daughter-in-law either.Because such small quarrels and grows big scandal.And he, in turn, involves all recollection of the past.As a result, I started a dispute over the sheets and ended bad choice sister and her mistakes made 5 years ago.
- Well, another issue that is psychological - it's the love of his son.If he used all the kindness and caring parents gave only trying to please them all, try not to disappoint his pranks.He grew up and developed in his eyes.Only the mother knows the strengths and weaknesses.And now, when he was a big, capable of independent decision-making, it is possible to lose it forever.Man, one day, she comes home and says that he would marry.The first feeling that would accompany future in-law - this is happiness for her son, because he finally settled down, got out of adolescence and matured.And the other side of the coin is the fear of the fact that the precious love of a son will be given no mother, and a new unknown lady.This problem manifests itself in all families, so the correct approach to the understanding of marriage-in-law will make it possible to reassure his ardor.Much also depends on the guy.If he tells the news two days before the wedding, then, of course, this will lead to the shock of his own mother.She will think that wife-son frivolous, just agreed to marry a man who never imagined her parents.And thus, a relationship reminiscent of "nuclear mix" will emerge from the daughter-in-law, even after the meeting.
persistent problem is the process of dividing men - for someone it is - a favorite son, but for something - the one and only husband.Understand the disputes often relegated it to the man.But how can it will resolve the conflict, if both women deny their guilt each other.Neither the daughter nor mother in law did not want to give way to the main women in the life of her husband.How can affect the situation at the same time caring son and faithful husband:
- choose the side of his mother, he will lose the trust of his wife and thus be provoked resentment.His wife would think that for her there is no place in the life of a loved one.
- choose the side of his wife, he can not hope for forgiveness of his mother, because such an act would be judged as a betrayal.
Neutralize "nuclear mixture" can only be calm and reasonable approach.
Both women have since the beginning look at each other, to identify strengths and weaknesses.Sometimes, it is necessary to give in something, but remember that everyone has their own point of view and respect it is necessary.In the event of conflict, try to be careful not to drag the man, but by no hurry to understand.
What are the secret techniques:
- Invite in-law (daughter) to your home and arrange for her a delicious lunch or dinner
- Invite in-law (daughter) to do fitness, because sport unites!
- Arrange shopping
- Find a common activity that will unite you.
Pastime daughter-in-law will not resemble "nuclear mixture" and become an elixir for the soul of the man who will enjoy the harmony in the house and in a relationship with both women loved!