quarrels, scandals, misunderstanding - a frequent companions of couples who do not find the heat of his shackles.Yes, there is a saying that "Lovely curse, only to amuse," but the consequences after such "fun" is very sad.While some feel a sense of happiness and joy because removed all negative energy, while others feel humiliated and insulted.
By the way, according to statistics in the first affects less resentment and anger of other people because of the fact that they go out and fights skillfully, quickly able to take a breath and start a new dialogue. As if nothing had happened.With them easier to communicate, relying on forgetting the dispute.And second, alas, without tears, insults, playing in the "silent treatment" is not easy, and certainly not forget the scandal, and at every opportunity will be initiated.But for such Plaks has its advantages: thanks to the magical salty substances released from the eye, in a word, tears, they achieve what they want.Namely - the enemy begins to feel guilty a
psychologists often consider family problems, trying to explain where is the source of such a huge reserve of energy that we are ready to splash out during a quarrel with her beloved, dear heart.It helps to find an alternative to scandals and try to get out of this conflict unharmed by the comprehension, reasoning and calm attitude.Psychology quarrel with a loved one will always be considered as the preservation of love and dignity of each partner plays a crucial role in the creation of an ideal family.
First, consider the causes leading to disputes with loved ones.
for couples such occasions can be:
- problems at work, stress.Returning after work she just wants to comfort and convenience.And what she gets?Dirty dishes, litter, spilled coffee on your favorite carpet, again off the computer and a husband who longs for a long and passionate night.Where to take so much effort to, at first, tidy up the house, and secondly, to keep silent and not to throw out the accumulated rage, thirdly, to meet the man she loved?It turns out that all this together is accumulated, stored and eventually thrown like a snowball.
- The problem with the academic performance of the child and his upbringing.It is known that men pay less attention to the issue of education of children.And in that moment, when a woman very busy, she asks her husband to sit down with the child and help him solve the homework.Of course, because of its "lack of time" and the simple reluctance, the man refuses, the child, thus, does not fulfill the lessons receives a negative evaluation and the disapproval of both, and parents.His wife, seeing this whole situation, forced to speak in a raised voice.
- Quarrel also occurs at a time when unexpected guests arrive: parents, relatives or friends.When not in the mood and energy to meet someone at home that any visit will be ignored.Men often resent their companions, they say, why he could not invite your friends.And here is the answer: they need to be and treat something, and this leads to the fact that women have to cook in the kitchen half a day, spending valuable time, they need to be entertained, but it also requires energy.In the end - all guests leave behind a lot of garbage that you want to remove.To all of this?Well, of course, a woman.
- It is one more reason to quarrel - different tastes.If one house is more like interior in a youth style, the other is a supporter of Japanese minimalism.And how can we be free of controversy?And how to make a loved one to accept your opinion.Suppose he did not agree with the choice of a specific color scheme, lighting design, but would not blame the fact that you have no taste, and that in the case of repair you "newcomer" Everyone has a right to believe in their own way, have their own privateopinion.Do not be afraid to share them, perhaps a little later it was your choice in handy.
- And the last reason, which will be discussed - is the psychology of money.If earlier the family budget was based on the man, his ability to make money and be influential in their community, and now the woman received a vozmozhnost- be independent.Why men are happy for their wives?After all, when both spouses bring revenue is good, a lot of money does not happen.However, the scoring begins: who earn more who spend more and that what happened to the rest of the money?
These are the reasons are in modern psychology major to start a quarrel with a loved one.The most interesting thing is that the announcement of the "war" comes unexpectedly.It would seem that yesterday was all right: a delicious dinner, watching a romantic movie, a perfect night.But on the morning of your loved one if substituted: attempts were made to harassment, identify gaps and causing pain.
What are the consequences of this kind of quarrels for a man?
This mental disorders, loss of appetite, or conversely, a sharp thrust to the food, the return of past illnesses (of progression), headaches, the possibility of cancer in men and cancer in both partners.This is something that concerns physiology.Psychology, in turn, points to such consequences as loss of purpose in life, unwillingness to continue to exist, only the identification of deficiencies in every other person, reducing the importance of a loved one, loss of desire in the reproductive sphere, problems at work matters.
Try to avoid arguments with your loved one throughout the first sort it out by talking with him.Talk with family and friends, with support.
Remember that the "word - not a sparrow, fly - you can not catch."